I have been studying some quotations about unity with a group of friends. In the sessions over the last two weeks we have delved deeply into the meaning of the quotes, the application of it to our own lives and what the implications might be as these quotes are expressed, in our thoughts and deeds, out into the world. We all have sensitivities that we have nurtured from childhood that may make us resistant to looking at things another way, doing things differently, because we anticipate pain and discomfort. We are right of course, change brings these feelings to the surface and however unpleasant and unwelcome they may be, I believe, they are exactly what the world needs for us to experience to work to make it better. I am not the best in communicating and my exuberance often comes across as self-righteousness. I know that my heart is in the right place and I long to impart, albeit imperfectly my thoughts and feelings without it seeming that I am disregarding the very valid opinions and experiences of others. The beauty about looking back over what has been said or done is taking the necessary steps to put things right again. To reach out to one delicate heart and offer love and friendship, with no attachment or concern for how it may be received. This is not to say I do not care but that I cannot place conditions on what another soul may say or do. Creating and building unity among groups and even learning about how to do it, is fraught with a minefield of stumbling blocks. These are not barriers but simply temporary obstacles we can easily move through together if we strive. We become more united, consciously and with unwavering focused effort, by practicing unity. Although it takes a lot of effort for me to overlook the faults of others, this is what I need to practice as I am setting unity in my sights as the goal. The insistent demands of my ego often delay me in reaching this point but with reflection and prayer I get there eventually. Taking a long hard look at my behaviour and striving to be and do better tomorrow has become habitual. It is humbling to see mistakes in what was said and in my behaviour but there is a lesson to be learned, growth to be accomplished and victories to be won. Hanging on to this one infinitesimal moment in time disregards the potential of the many more I have to live.
I find that I am gradually learning to understand that there is more than one "right" way to do things or to think. Being able to interact in a compassionate accepting way even when we perceive difference is hard but so worth the effort.