I have been drawn into a situation between a youth, her mother and house sitters that are caring for the home where she is residing. Circular conversations are happening and all is being conveyed to me second-hand. Where the truth lies is really hard to discern. I feel resentment for being drawn in and sympathy for the youth at the centre of it all, though I do realise that she too has responsibility to assume. The mother and house sitters are looking to me for resolution. Until direct conversations occur between the parties, speculation and backbiting will continue to direct the outcomes. My most recent correspondence to the house sitters was inspired after reading that nobility involves treating everyone with dignity. I acknowledged their frustrations and the efforts they have exerted to cultivate a loving and stable environment in the house, the inherent nobility that exists in this youth and how she is simply learning how to be an adult. I resisted the temptation to be lead by the reports of the house sitters and assured them that the right decisions will be become clear for them. I simply acknowledged the worry that the mother is having and encouraged her to speak directly to her daughter. Ethically, it is not my place to decide any outcome and my parenting style is very different from the mother's that I would be of little help. I am an encouraging bystander using the virtues to guide my interactions with the parties, enjoying the bounties of the good life that summer is bestowing.
Comments