Over the last two days I have concentrated on giving my very best to my tasks and relationships. What gets in the way of me doing this consistently is my own emotional responses to inevitable difficulties. I am in search of effective ways to deal with my emotions, as my attitude toward the problem becomes greater than the problem itself!! I recently read that the simple act of first checking my emotional response to a problem is where my energies need to be focused. When I do not do this it hampers my ability to strive for excellence and my spiritual growth generally. I am learning to control my emotional response and am noticing far reaching effects. Let me share with you what I have learned. I am simply not accepting others negative emotions. Everyone wants to give away their negative feelings, sometimes intentionally sometimes not. When I am in the moment, I can say "No thank you!". It is such a freeing experience. For me it is like being offered a cockroach to hold. I will not touch it much less accept it. Why? I do not like them and would not voluntarily even go near them. It is the same with people's accusations and insults. I can refuse to accept them. I will picture cockroaches. It may not have the effect of stopping the behaviour but it is about me detaching from others bad behaviour and not letting it become the reason for me behaving badly. Today, excellence involves building this emotional intelligence skill.
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