Fidelity

26 March 2020

In an early morning conversation with one of my adult sons, I had cause to understand the depth of this virtue. I have a habit of looking at problem and sharing a positive frame of reference. My children know this and it annoys them, especially when they want to wallow in injustice, sorrow and despair. Yet they seek my opinion and get upset when I offer an opposite view of how perhaps they see the situation. This was the gist of this conversation with this extremely eloquent, intelligent and determined child of mine. Fidelity was remaining true to the foundation of our relationship and not hanging up (...oh but my finger was twitching) when he resorted to accusations around understanding his point of view and seeing things through his eyes. Fidelity was listening calmly and accepting that lockdown, in the country where he resides, was clearly affecting his outlook on life in general. I remained loyal to the essence of who I know him to be and am certain in the knowledge that he will reflect on our conversation when he is in a calmer mood. The win is, despite differences of opinion, raised voices and offhanded hurtful comments, our relationship is still in tact and better off for the experience.